I noticed that on the television show known this new year for creating your "Best Life" (Oprah) they are focusing on five things to strengthen and create connection. Sexual intimacy is on this list. This shows us a few things. One, that there are enough people in this world who have questions and concerns with similar experiences, and two....it is vital to marriages and good health. I have followed the information closely and would like to offer some thoughts.
Over all, I feel that the instruction and advice, more the educational and counseling side, has been dead on and good. I would mention, however, that there have been parts of the professional advice I would discard with caution. The point is to really adhere to the spirit to seek truth and light. In this world, learning about anything tends to open doors of both good and evil. There will always be conflicting views and ideas. Search for great things. LEARN - LEARN- LEARN. STUDY- STUDY- STUDY. Take what feels right and peaceful and pray about those things. Discard the others that don't settle well. In reference to some of the "advice" offered, a quote by President Spencer W. Kimball helps us take what works and throw out what doesn't. He says:
"If it is unnatural, you just don't do it. That is all, and all the family life should be kept clean and worthy and on a very high plane. There are some people who say that behind the bedroom doors anything goes. That is not true and the Lord would not condone it." (Teachings of Spencer W. Kimball, 312).
There is always a fine line in the ways of the world. Remember that often times Satan makes good seem bad, and bad seem normal, acceptable, and good. Always seek and heed the words of the prophets and discuss the personal detail of your intimate life with your husband or wife at great length. I am not unfamiliar with the views presented in the Oprah show today. In fact research and study has brought to my attention the "normal" side of sexual things over and over again (ie; adding pornography and other "things" into our marriages to "spice it up"). What IS essential is to be open and honest with our spouses -which thankfully was mentioned and emphasized on the show. I recommend using what was shared to increase knowledge and help the communication process in our marriages. I also recommend matching up truths that bring peace, and letting go of principles that contradict the Lord's plan. May the spirit guide and direct our intentions, beliefs, and actions.
In the next post I'll share an enlightening circumstance I was blessed to be a part of. A conversation which confirmed once again what a personal patriarchal blessing has already let me know: that I am to teach in any way I can.