February 26, 2009

Selfless love

There are a million ways to express and share intimacy in marriage. Simple conversation as the dishes are being loaded, exchanging the pick-up of kids in the afternoon, a call to "check in", really studying the grocery isle for the exact flavor of salad dressing you know your spouse will love. These moments- these choices- are the essence of a deeper level of love in our relationships. These choices of consciously putting our husbands and wives first-secure for our marriages more comfort and trust in our sexual connections that follow. As we place our spouses above ourselves in the everyday moments we are used to...our hearts and minds prepare for deeper connection later, even if we don't realize this is happening. Selfless acts of love create richer connections and stronger ties. Selfless acts of love create the chance for celestial love to develop. It prepares our hearts and souls for more.

It is a beautiful experience to share a home and children and with another human being. It is remarkable to have someone to share our things with. But MORE beautiful and remarkable is the sharing of ourselves...and this union starts to solidify as we serve and live with selfless love.

4 comments:

  1. I love this post. I think it's interesting that when I make those choices and think of my spouse I am the one that is fullfilled and when I don't make those choices and become selfish I am left wanting more.

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  2. ....left wanting more. I LOVE your insight!

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  3. This post brought me back to a time many MANY moons ago when my priorities were messed up and everything with my spouse was a competition. "I" was always more tired and "I" always worked longer hours and "I" never felt appreciated....blah blah blah. Well- one night a lightbulb switched on and I received some personal revelation... It wasn't all about ME. TADA!!! LOL! I changed that instant and have never felt more 'served' in my life. I was doing all the same things but with a willing attitude of love and service. In return my husbeau became more selfless and followed suit. MAJOR relationship change we've kept up ever since.

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  4. I think your experiences are for EVERYONE to learn from. Love it!

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